Today’s program was written by Jerry Price.

Did you watch any of the Republican or Democratic National Convention stuff a while back? I’m not going to weigh in on which political party is right or wrong, but my observation centers on how these political conventions run and what the media does. After all, I’ve lived through several U.S. Presidents and have been witnessing these “Last Word Games” over and over, till the national stomach turns!

i saw convention delegates cheering keynote speakers, followed by comments from news people. Then, at times, we’d see a shift into Last Word Games. The agendas flew, depending on the media person or the guest they invited to comment on the speakers. It’s almost like watching the Green Bay Packers play the Dallas Cowboys. It is a type of last word game as the clock ticks down.

Sometimes I see this game played when counseling marriages. “No I didn’t say that!” “Yes you did and…”, then the one upping each other starts. Wish I could say I haven’t played the last word game but I can’t. Or how about a man and wife arguing about something ‘er other, and right at the crescendo, one of them turns away, spits out some pointed, caustic stream of words thrown over their shoulder, then goes through a door and slams it before the other person can reply.

Grade school kids play it when they argue with other kids about who is number one. Then insults fly and we might hear something like “Your mother wears combat boots!” Wish I was making this up but I actually remember hearing that when I was a kid. Those were fighting words!

The rule for Last Word games is “I’ll get control. I’ll run the show and if you don’t let me, I’ll hurt you.” Getting the last word means “I win and you lose!”, like firing a parting shot over your shoulder as you leave the room, leaving the other person no recourse but to lose the argument. Getting the last word serves as a clinching argument that will make up for any deficiencies in your logic. Getting the last word in the moment, also brings the advantage that you possibly may point to your success in the debate as the ultimate concluding argument for future debates. However, if you did not win the last debate, last word game players will often still incessantly and loudly claim that they did have the parting, winning shot.

i’d suppose many people figure, if you can just come up with that one, amazing, phenomenal statement of the “truth,” you can set your partner straight, and you’ll be right and they’ll see the ultimate error of their ways. Unfortunately, strategizing like that during a dispute is highly likely to only erode feelings of trust and good faith. You may be “technically correct”, but in truth, you’ve only caused your partner to feel that you care less about the relationship and more about winning.

These games always spring from what i call “avoidance strategies” where fearful thinking threatens the last word game player. Then “Boom!” the individual starts acting like a big shot, a tough, or sneaky person – it’s not what they’re saying as much as what they’re not saying that controls you. How manipulative is that thinking!

i believe there is another perspective which should persuade us when we are engaged in a tug of war over who gets the last word. God gets the first word in our lives, and the truth is, He also gets the last word. None of us had the advantage of saying to whom we were born, what color our hair would be, or what language we would speak. The first word in our lives is in the providence of God. On the end of things, the Lord has the last word too. We don’t get to decide when we die, how we will die, or where the end will happen. Again, that is in the providence of the Lord. In 2 Chronicles 18 Ahab was told by the prophet that if he went to war he was going to die. Arrogant Ahab thought he’d get the last word by saying, “I’ll deal with you when i get back!”, then drove off to war, overconfident, and hard hearted. Ahab thought he’d have the last word on the battle, proving to everyone that he was the King and nobody could tell him what to do! As it turns out, God’s man heard the Lord correctly and Ahab died, killed by a no-name soldier. We may play last word games, but truthfully, God is the one who always gets the last word … on everything.

Here’s something I do to mind this gap. On the spot, I call it out in a matter of fact manner. Then, I’ll encourage the hard work of letting others think for themselves, which is what Jesus did with Pilate in John 18:34 by asking “Is this your own question, or did someone tell you about me?” i believe the Lord respects those who own their own choices and conclusions. God always has the last word in our life.

Thanks for listening, i’m Social Porter for Living In His Name.

i think so many people want to find a place where God can not see so they can sin in peace, but no such place exists, there is no shelter from such a storm. Truly, there is no such place where God cannot see, nor any scenario where mankind can sin in peace. Without Christ, mankind is dead and doesn’t know it. Maybe not homeless as in without shelter, but homeless at heart with no safe haven to call their shalom place. We may breathe and appear well in the mirror to our eyes, but we are dead without Christ, killed under the weight of obligations we cannot muster to, strangled at the hands of grief, constipated and bloated on undealt with transgressions. Often we are the ghosts which haunt our own houses, living inside our own wounds and grief so long, we are defined by them. So many can’t let go of regret, can’t accept that someone in their life left or died, took their money, or refused to acknowledge their work. Like someone who was mountain climbing, fell into a crack and became wedged there in such a way that their hands and feet could find no grip to get out. Stuck in a crack and never coming back. The enemy tells us we have been robbed of God but that is a lie. Jesus over came the world so we could live in the power of the Holy Spirit like shining lights on a hill. In John 16:33, Jesus said, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will face seemingly insurmountable problems and contrary winds. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” No one ever said that before, or did did what He did and never will. Jesus is the only one. There is not another who can deliver us from a life of emotional knots, dark binding contracts passively agreed to by the pen and ink of hopeless resignation. Romans 6:16, “Do you not know that if you present yourselves to anyone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either of sin, which leads to death, or of obedience, which leads to righteousness?” We were all born slaves to sin until Jesus came with His blood bought chisel which breaks us free, snapping the chains of darkness, liberating us to life and light in Himself. They came for him with ropes and chains, they sought to kill Him again and again. They came to Him female and male, to take His life with hammer and nail.

Jesus overcame the world for you and me, completely for the reason of our redemption, that all mankind could have the opportunity of a restored relationship with God. Not only was His sacrifice sufficient to deliver us, but He went above and beyond by providing an eternal home with Himself as the never-ending light of a different order which never dims and is unceasing.  No other person on earth ever has or ever will do what Jesus did. No famous or infamous person will do that for you and me. One way Jesus is the truth. Guilt be gone, grief be gone in the Name of Jesus. You are alive in Christ and there is no good reason you can not be an overcomer. More than a conqueror, an overcomer. Romans 8:37, “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.” More than conquerors, but overcomers in Christ because He has overcome the world.

Because of the work and gift of God, the Holy Spirit sings in us redemption songs, restored lives of incredible needle work at the hand of the Lord, creating an eternal living tapestry on God’s long wall of testimony.    Through Jesus we can live as overcomers, alive again from the ashes of a life which looks like a burned out forest. From the blood of Jesus to the breath of the Holy Ghost, He gives us words and melodies, which weave life in patterns of swirling paisley, bright basket weaves and brocade on the thick fabric of God’s presence, especially deep jewel tones of ruby, emerald, and jade. To some it may not seem like much, but to me, what has been overcome in my own life is absolutely miraculous and must surely look like bright raised silk embroidery to the eyes of the Lord.

[Psalm 30:11-12]  Lord, You have turned for me my mourning into dancing; you have loosed my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness, that glory may sing your praise and not be silent. O LORD my God, I will give thanks to you forever! [Psalm 66:1-12] Friends, i say, Sing songs to the tune of His glory; shout for joy to God, all the earth; sing the glory of his name; give to him glorious praise! Say to God, “How awesome are your deeds! We’ve never seen anything like You. So great is your power that your enemies come cringing to you like scolded dogs. All the earth worships you and sings praises to you; they sing praises to your name.” Come and see what God has done, take a look at His breath taking wonders: he is awesome in his deeds toward mankind. Bless our God, O peoples; let the sound of his praise be heard, He has kept our soul among the living and has not let our feet slip. i called to Him with my mouth, my tongue shaped the sounds of music. My eyes had become accustomed to the dark, complacent to be caught in a trap, resigned to forever being a slave to corruption. But you Lord, You have brought us out to a place of abundance for you have overcome the world.

He left His place in Heaven and came to us as a man, lived every example of how we should live life and be continually victorious. He gave to us all of Himself, our kinsman redeemer who purchased our freedom with His blood. Jesus was crucified on a cruel cross for our transgressions, rose from the dead and descended to sit at the right hand of the Father Almighty. Jesus has overcome the world.

What do you think?

Thank you for listening. i’m Social Porter with Living In His Name ministries.

It’s a beautiful evening and i thought i’d go outside on the deck which overlooks the beautiful river below. i’m Social Porter and you’re listening to Outposts, cool jazz and contemplative conversation, broadcast semi-live from the deck of a rural cafe which overlooks the virtual cascading banks of the Ockluhwahhah River, where the trees gently lean over the river’s edge, and every evening is oh so pleasant.

You know, just looking up at the night sky just makes me smile. Every evening leads into the next day, so pause for a moment, don’t stay inside if you don’t have to, breath in the clean evening air, and if the weather allows and you’ve got the time, it’s your chance to plan another brand-new day.

There is just something profound about looking into the depth of the night sky. God is absolutely beyond brilliant. More than good, but capitalize the “G” remove an “o” and you get God. Again, He’s more than good He is God, and all He’s done and will do is the very epitome and personification of “goodness”.

Do you realize just how many people are carrying around an offense; walking around in churches and fellowships all across America carrying with them some burdensome thing which hinders their forward progress? A true offense may not seem like it weighs much in the moment, but just give it time, it’ll get ridiculously heavy. The potential for offense seems available everywhere, all the time. What is it which hinders you and … where are “the peacemakers”?

Face it, every turn in life offers some new opportunity to be offended and conflicted. Sometimes it seems justified, other times, maybe most of the time, the offense is just pride and arrogance. Please note i used the term “seems justified” because truly, there is NO good reason to carry around an offense, weighing you down, bending your mind and feelings around like a hair pin. And the longer we carry that offense, the more it twists our decision-making mechanism into something God never intended, influencing everything else in our lives. Haven’t you met someone who was just bitter about almost everything? i can just about guarantee you it started somewhere with an offense and unbending unforgiveness.

Jesus and the Bible are our example of conduct, character, morals, principles, and ethics, so it’s important to note, Jesus NEVER carried an offense around. And because He didn’t carry an offense, He never needed a defense.

Anytime i meet someone who is defensive, they usually have pockets of offenses stored away and rotting. What will you do about your offenses, because eventually, we’ve all got to deal with our baggage?

Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peacemakers, For they shall be called sons of God.” Come out of hiding you peacemakers. It’s time to get to work.

The Bible contains all of the promises and principles needed for true peacemaking. One of the earliest Biblical records of arbitration and making peace was Moses.

Exodus 18:13, “And so it was, on the next day, that Moses sat to judge the people; and the people stood before Moses from morning until evening.”

When Jethro, Moses’s father-in-law, saw what was going on he asked Moses what he was doing. Moses replied in vs 16, “When they have a difficulty, they come to me, and I judge between one and another; and I make known the statutes of God and His laws.” Moses was evidently acting as an arbitrator and using the statutes of God and His laws as his standard. That’s a good place to start, but Moses was taking it upon himself to be the decision maker without encouraging the people to be involved with God’s standards and statutes for themselves.

If we read on we see Jethro passing wisdom on to Moses by saying Moses should teach the people right and wrong so the people would know for themselves, and to delegate authority to Godly men to help with the job of making peace. i like that, teaching people right and wrong so they would know for themselves, not needing some agency standing over them, dictating their every move even thereby becoming the thought police. We all need to know right from wrong and God as our standard, not our neighbor or the government.

Are you a peacemaker, or an offense-taker? And i did say peacemaker. There is a difference between peacekeepers and peacemakers. In order to be a peacemaker, we must be active participants of peace, and that is being active participants, more than passive observers who never get involved enough to make peace. Peacekeepers simply keep the chaos down to a tolerable roar. A peacekeeper serves to diffuse violence or the physical lead up to violence, whereas the peacemaker works to create a lasting nonviolent and creative community. One is a Band-Aid, the other is a lasting fix.

We can’t make peace by demanding the exercise of the law. Actually, law keepers never win. Some think that by making the law louder with more severe penalties we can make peace in our communities, but truthfully, condemnation never delivered anyone from immorality or criminality. The law may have scared them into remission, but without Jesus, no one ever became reconciled and transformed.

The 1873 Colt Peacemaker was originally made by Colt Firearms, chambered for .45 Long colt cartridges. It has been called the “gun which won the west”. Law men enforced the law and used the Colt Peacemaker to keep chaos under wraps among warring parties. Enforcing the law does not make peace, it just keeps the law. People stopped fighting only because they might get shot, not because their internal conflict was resolved. The gun helped keep the peace in a way, but certainly didn’t serve to create any long-term unity. Maybe Colt Firearms should have named it a peacekeeper instead of a peacemaker.

So right off the bat, it seems to me that for any of us to be peacemakers, we would have to start by first knowing Jesus, and  knowing something about peace for ourselves within ourselves…. wouldn’t you think?

i make notes to myself and i jotted this interesting factoid out in my little book. i have no idea who wrote it but here it is: “It is estimated that in all the history of humanity less than eight percent of recorded history can be described as times of peace. In the last 32 centuries there have been fewer than 300 years of peace. Historians tell us that within the last 300 years there have been 286 wars in Europe alone.” God has given it to us who are empowered by the death and resurrection of Christ to be more than peacekeepers who control, but peacemakers who impart lasting peace, real peace to whom so ever would have it.

Galatians 5:22 says one of the fruits of the Spirit is peace, and Mark 9:50 says, “Have salt in yourselves, and be at peace with each other.” i like that, “Have salt in yourselves, and be at peace with each other.” Let us “be worth our salt” and season the world around us, being peacemakers not offense-takers. On a side note, a really interesting explanation of the idiom of “being worth your salt”, is that the Roman soldier’s wages were often paid in salt. As a result, the person’s worth was the weight of salt paid for wages earned. Of course, then, the higher in rank and better soldier you were, the more salt you were given.

According to Matthew 5:13, we, who believe in Christ, are the salt of the earth. We should be able to have an effect on the earth and those in it. Salt was and still is very valuable and i think the Lord is saying to us to “have value in yourselves and practice to be at peace with each other”. We are to be exercising our gifting which the Father has given us, never allowing a conflict to continue if we can help it. Oh and don’t you know there is opportunity for offense to ride on every side. Unresolved conflict is like having the devil around – if you let the devil ride, the next thing you know he’ll want to drive.

As people who are reconciled to God, we are called to respond to conflict in a way that is remarkably different from the way the world deals with conflict. The world returns anger for anger, and judgment for judgment. Romans 12:18-19 says, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my friends…”

Our society seems to be obsessed with revenge and making sure other people get what “they deserve”. But i think a good question is, how do we measure out “what they deserve”, according to who, by what standard? If it is what we deserve according to the world, then the only right the world extends to us is the right to suffer, but if it’s what we get according to Jesus, ahhhh, now we’re talking reconciliation! We get what we do not deserve, grace, because Jesus got what He did not deserve, judgment, suffering, and crucifixion. If He had not died and been resurrected from the dead, we would not get grace but condemnation.

When Jesus was crucified, Pontius Pilate asked the people what they wanted to do with Jesus, and with one offended voice they cried out “Take Him away! Crucify Him!” The unfounded judgment and prejudice was incredible. Jesus came to give mankind the opportunity to make peace with God, He was being a peacemaker between man and God, but yet all the people could say was “Crucify Him!” The wounded conscience and biased mind of the people was so offended, many missed the visitation of God.

Instead of setting our eyes on our own desires or spending an inordinate amount of time thinking about what others may do, or not do, should have done, or could have done but didn’t, let’s take delight in the Lord and give evidence to His love by demonstrating forgiveness, wisdom, and exemplary character.

Offense is easy. hell makes sure ample opportunity abounds for offense. If the devil can get people motivated against people, prying their unity apart at the seams, then the people will become distanced from God, who is the very source of their peace, and maybe he can even influence them to learn to live with an ever-deepening wounded conscience, learning to live in the chaos, saying to themselves, “Oh, this is just the way things are.” To most people, peace is simply “the absence of strife.” But God’s view of peace is much deeper and much bigger than simply an “absence of conflict”. The Lord says true peace comes when we are re-established between God and ourselves.

What will it take for you to be a peacemaker instead of an offense-taker? Are we willing to undertake the task of being peacemakers? After all, Matthew 5:9 says being a peacemaker is one of our ear marks.

Of the five points of the Peacemakers Pledge, point 2 says, “Get The Log Our Of Your Own Eye: Instead of blaming others for a conflict or resisting correction, let us trust in God’s mercy and take responsibility for our own contribution to conflicts.”

If we get offended and think if we just go and tell the other person the problem, they’ll just own it. Well, chances are very good the other person doesn’t even know they’ve offended anyone, so we can’t expect the other person to make everything alright for us. It is our responsibility to be reconciled to God; no one can accept the peace offering of the Blood of Jesus for us, neither can we receive this gift of God on behalf of someone else.

Another quote from the Peacekeepers Pledge, point 3 says, “Gently Restore: Instead of pretending that conflict doesn’t exist or talking about others behind their backs, we will overlook minor offenses or we will talk personally and graciously with those whose offenses seem too serious to overlook, seeking to restore rather than condemn. When a conflict cannot be resolved in private, we will ask others in the body of Christ to help us settle the matter in a biblical manner.

Matthew 18:15 from the Message, “If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend.” That is called being a peacemaker. Did you get that? If THEY hurt YOU, !YOU! go to them and practice your conflict resolution. And if they don’t then knock the dust from your feet and wait on God to resolve the dilemma.

How many of us get offended and just quit on the relationship and go home, saying, “I’ll never speak to her again!” or “That’s the last time I give him any of my time!” OR, and i think this is often the action most take, we smile, speak our spiritual talk only if necessary, generally keeping silent while maintaining our facade of wellbeing … and just move away, maybe even to another church body, allowing the offense to stand and fester, thinking if we just don’t say anything, maybe it will go away. My friend, No, it does not just “go away”, there are no words which come out of your mouth which do nothing and will just “go away”, and believe me, you can’t out run it all either. Do you know just how many offended people there are in churches today? There are so so many sheep from another pasture out there church surfing because somewhere they got offended and just moved to another body until they got offended and then moved again, and then moved again, until it became a lifestyle of not dealing with conflict and simply moving on. It is truly a scandal!!

In John 6, when Jesus said “He who eats My flesh and drinks My blood abides in Me, and I in him,” His disciples had a hard time with this. So Jesus asked them the question, “Does this offend you?” “Offend” is the Greek word, skandalizo, where we get our word for scandal. What Jesus was asking was “do you think my words cause you to stumble, becoming entrapped?” Offense is a trap, it immobilizes and neutralizes the offended person.

Offense is a stumbling block, but by the grace of God we can turn it from a stumbling down to a stepping up.

Conflict resolution has got to be one of the most under-developed skills in the Body of Christ. Honestly, i think true “peacemakers” are hard to find today, but i also think that in the days ahead, God will raise us up to be just that, peacemakers.

How about this? Instead of accepting premature compromise or allowing relationships to wither and fade, how about we actively pursue genuine peace and reconciliation—forgiving others like Jesus has forgiven us? How about if we take the time to look for and find … just and mutually beneficial solutions to our differences?

i tell you this too, just because we’ve forgiven an offense and gone to the other person and found an amicable solution, by no means signifies we must allow that other person back in our lives. There truly are some people in this world who are not good for us.

My job as a peacemaker is to reconcile men to God, with other human beings and with their own selves. When Jesus walked the earth as a man, the world was divided. One race hated other races, one nation hated other nations, and people of one religion hated other religions. An example of this is the feelings between Jews and Gentiles. The Jewish man thanked God for not being a Gentile, a slave or a woman. He despised the half-breed Samaritans, even to the point of walking many miles out of his way to avoid contact. He was saying to himself, “Oh my gosh, i’m so glad i’m not you because you’re so wrong and i’m so right.”

Peacemaking starts at home. The starting point of being a peacemaker for others is that we, ourselves, first must make peace with God. If we can be at peace and comfortable within our own skin, i believe that is a huge hurdle we’ve jumped by the grace of God which easily impacts the world around us.

What’d’ya think? Peacemaker or offense-taker? What’s it gonna be? Learning conflict resolution or just being mobile sheep? Are we going to try and find win/win solutions, being honest and trusting God, OR  leading a life of being offended and always moving on to another pasture? We all must decide for ourselves. Think about it.

Hear this and hear well, as one fellow wrote: “Jesus embraced the worst sinner, touched the vilest leper, purified the most despicable prostitute, took all types of people and joined them together into one beautiful family of God. He paid a high price but saw his mission as a peacemaker as a priority in his life.”

The solution for family feuds, racial strife and civil conflict is Jesus. Peace does not come by political party, economic system, national flag or the United Nations. Jesus is the One who brings peace.

Thank you for listening, i’m Social Porter with Living In His Name Ministries and this has been Outposts. This has been brought to you by Living In His Name Ministries, the always amazing Andrea at Viva coffee house in Tucson Arizona, Area 22 Guitars, Kyle Walker alias Joe, Miss Gertrude Allen, Eugene Fowler at Fowlers Amoco Service, Myrtle Long, and Trinity Bakers where there’s always something good in the oven.

Do you spend your time pasting band aids on situations, just keeping the chaos and turmoil to a low boil until the next offense and explosion of drama in your life, or are you willing to do the work of learning to be a peacemaker, practicing God’s idea of conflict resolution, learning how to foster a long term, creative solution that is a win/win for everyone?

Matthew 5:44-45”… Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.”

Make peace with God, yourself, and your neighbor, BE the example of how the Lord asks us to conduct ourselves. Peace my friends, real peace in the name of Jesus. Amen.

This was written by Jerry Price.

Today we’re talking about how you can’t take God and the Bible out of the schools and expect that humanity without God has a better way.

In December of 2012 the headlines read, “Such horror once again witnessed! Children and guardians at Sandy Hook Elementary School shot dead.”

The news media is trying to figure this out. Some are calling for gun control. Some are talking about how important it is to identify a troubled person early on. Other authorities are saying 98% of mentally challenged people are non violent. Some are trying to define this as a mass killing and not a school shooting. Why? It is promoted with reassurance that schools are still some of the safest places in the USA for children to attend. Others are trying to say the shooter came from a broken home and his mother was rigid as if that’s the cause for this crime. Like it was “her” fault the young man made the choices which brought such grief to others.

I understand our world is confused and shocked about this. If you listen closely at attempts to explain this tragedy, psychologists are saying they’re very frustrated we couldn’t stop something like this before it happened. They say prevention has to be, and here’s that phrase again, “early on.” How “early on” is “early on” enough?

They talk about how protecting the children with a system of entry to schools can be done better. Some are saying we can’t turn our public places, like schools, into fortresses. A remaining few people are saying let children question parents instead of forcing the conversation about the murders on them. Oh, the onslaught of public opinion is like the pounding waves of the sea.

Some psychologists add that we can’t provide a silver bullet to guarantee something like this won’t happen again. Everyone is trying to cope.

Friends, we live in a fallen world!

Instead of seeing this as a mental health problem and how to catch that “early on”, as if that will prevent another mass killing in this country, I think it would be good to direct the question in a different way.

I’m not sure why the authorities aren’t addressing how important it is to detect twisted thinking “early on”, whether a person has mental health issues or not, for mental illness is not twisted thinking. How do we identify twisted thinking and can that be okay to do, even if we see it in children? What happens in any persons mind is the place to start. Here’s an illustration.

There are elementary schools which address the behavior or misbehavior of kids with a color card system. Blue and green cards are good and show exemplary behavior, yellow, orange and red cards are not good. Progressively those colors show behavior becoming more irresponsible. i’ll ask a question then: in who’s opinion and by what standard are teachers to decide who should receive blue, green, yellow, orange, or red cards? Will politics or social standing effect the teachers decisions of what color which child should receive?

My 7-year-old grandson is in a school like that. A while back he came home two days in a row with the yellow card. His mother did a great job engaging with the teacher about this. I asked if i, as his grandfather, could have a talk with the teacher. I thanked the teacher for being involved with him and being willing to follow-up with a call to his mother.

Then I said, “As his grandfather, this is where I’m going with my grandson. You’re addressing his behavior and that’s good. I’m addressing the thinking behind his behavior because if that doesn’t change, color cards alone won’t help. I’m talking to my grandson about where his thinking is going, and when he gets a yellow card, I treat it as if he’s headed to red. So a yellow card is serious to us in this home. Now, we’re not talking about a mental disorder or if the boy has ADD, or any other label indicating mental health issues. We’re talking about any twisted way of thinking that results in irresponsible decision-making.” We paused a moment, then i continued, “So I want to support you as his teacher on the home front so my grandson understands he can’t be two different people in two different places. He’s one person in two different places and if he acts out in class, it’s as if he acted out in this home. If he wants to be stubborn in school or act like he doesn’t hear or won’t obey you, it’s as if he’s done that to me, his grandmother, and his mother. We will continue to address the way he thinks and train him to be consistent in his thinking wherever he goes.”

After the phone call, my daughter said the teacher stated that in all the years of teaching – over 25 – she had never had a grandfather say, or do something like that. She was appreciative and felt support. She was given the authority to be a part of our family system.

How does this relate to Newtown, Connecticut? Here it is. The early on thing that psychologists are talking about starts … with me! I mean, I must be aware of my own twisted thinking and see how it puts me in a direction where, if not pulled to a halt and changed, will find its way to hurting others, even if it’s a yellow card. None of us can escape that fact.

As adults, parents and authorities in the lives of our children, we must be aware of how they are thinking and making decisions, not just what they are thinking. The how and the why are every bit as important as the what of their thinking. If we don’t get that, whatever changes we think the color card system will bring – won’t last. Once we understand where they are going in their thinking and how they get there, we can begin preventive measures to offset the potential of being habitually irresponsible – “early on”.

We can’t do this alone, which is why we need good school teachers, like the one my grandson has; good Sunday school teachers; good community organizations for children with adults who understand this concept, and solid loving families where kids have structure.

Let me say, this is not about thinking of our children as criminals, but as children who are bound up with foolishness and have to learn how to be responsible adults. Kids still need to be kids but I think we often sell them short about their ability to think responsibly.

One more thing: As was said in the opening, you can’t take God and the Bible out of the schools and expect that humanity, without God, has a better way. I believe that is the truth.

Let’s mourn with those who mourn. Let’s do what we can to shore up how we can protect children, though let us not forget it starts with the way we, ourselves, the parents or guardians think and where we’re going with that thinking. Let’s renew our minds on this matter about addressing twisted thinking with our children, and invite God to be a part of the process.

Thanks for listening, i’m Social Porter for Living In His Name Ministries.

This was written by Jerry Price.

The topic today is, “Me Games”. Without getting into a big word like narcissism, how about let’s give a simple definition of me games? “Me games” means “I outshine others, especially you, and my view of myself is less than true.”

When i think i’m more than i am, bigger than you, faster than you, brighter than you, wiser than you, the stage is set for one great big frustration and disappointment after another. Me games motivate us to exaggerate the value of our own thoughts. It causes us to elevate our opinions and raises the importance of the fulfillment of what we perceive as our needs, even above God’s and, of course, decidedly higher than anyone else. Here is a sticky statement, please let it sink down into your thinking machine: Pride, arrogance, and self-centeredness will cause us to slit our eyes to see only what we want to see, close our ears to hear only what we want to hear, and will turn the song in our mouth into the braying of a donkey.

Whether adolescent or adult, this all-about-me person won’t admit if they’ve hurt others, pushing people away. They only look at their good side, they only play the parts of their mental movie that shows themselves being the hero, and they play it over and over and over. i wonder if we do that because we figure if we play the movie of our own exaggerated importance maybe, just maybe, we’ll actually become as important as we wish we were. Now, it’s true, there is indeed something to be said for having a positive mental image of ourselves, absolutely, but when we play it out at the expense of others, with no regard for anything other than our own elevation, we can rest assured, the Lord is going to address this. It is the game of “I win at your expense”.

There are many areas of life the Bible doesn’t seem to say much about, but oh, you can believe it, it is there, we’re just not seeing it. It says a lot of things are right, it says a lot of things are wrong, you should do this, you shouldn’t do that, but it doesn’t seem to say much concerning a few other things. i call them gray areas, between the black and the white of the bad and the good. Not everything in life is cut and dried so we must read and listen closely. It is true, as a Christian we do indeed have liberty. If what we’ve got in mind isn’t scripturally incorrect or maybe even the Lord just straight out says, “Don’t do that”, then i believe we have the technical and the moral right to do it. But, there are two things basically that should determine whether you do or don’t. It is a discipline within ourselves to think and determine the following, so don’t give up. One, how will it affect others, and two, how will it affect you? Me game players rarely play the entire movie, they only play out the part where they get to be the champion, and thinking to themselves about the negative effect of their actions for themselves or others, well, that simply isn’t part of their process.

My wife recently gave me an article entitled Burglar abuses “dumb” victim in apology letter. The letter from a 16-year-old burglar was released by the West Yorkshire police in London to show the mindset of criminals who target people’s home.

The young burglar writes, “To be honest I’m not bothered or sorry about the fact that I burgled your home. I don’t know why I am writing a letter to you! I have been forced to write this letter by ISSP.”

The young offender went on to say the victim failed to draw their curtains before they went to sleep and were “thick enough” to leave their downstairs window open. Then he says, “I’m not going to show any sympathy or remorse.”

Notice this offender’s Me Game? There is no thought for how he hurt someone else, only that he was gratified and that he was more right, and he leveraged the outcome in his favor at someone else’s expense. And, there it is: he leveraged the outcome in his favor at someone else’s expense. It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a criminal offender or a regular citizen, this game can be played by anyone, anytime, anyplace. It’s all about me, me, me, the great and mighty me, yes me and the other person is just collateral damage the great and mighty me is more than willing to live with. The Me Game player is more important and everyone else, well, they’re simply disposable.

Out of many thoughts on this, one is demonstrated by Jesus. The Bible states in Matthew 20, “…the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”

1 Peter 4:10, “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in various forms.”

Even in my motives for serving, it can still be all about me, but when I see Jesus, i mean really “see” Jesus, it is obvious, God truly has a heart for others and sacrificed Himself for us. Those who play Me Games won’t do that. That’s right, not “can’t” do that, but “won’t” do that. They are choosing.

Let us all be more like Jesus, having a genuine heart for the well being of others, like Timothy, who Paul speaks of in Philippians 2:20, saying there is no one among his companions like him, for he will be genuinely concerned for your welfare.

Thanks for listening, i’m Social Porter for Living In His Name Ministries.

Wees outentiek, geloofwaardig, eerlik en opreg.

“Titus 2:1 “Maar jy moet die dinge onderrig wat ooreenstem met gesonde onderrig, wat die karakter en regte lewe behels wat ware gelowiges identifiseer.”

Paulus het vir Titus opdrag gegee om gesonde onderrig toe te pas en die mense te leer hoe om reg te lewe, volgens God se Woord, sodat hulle as ware gelowiges in Christus geïdentifiseer kan word. Een van die grootste behoeftes van die kerk vandag is geloofwaardigheid. Ons, as gelowiges, word dikwels meer geken deur die wêreld,  vir waarteen ons staan, as waarvoor ons staan. Ek het na die stad toe gegaan en ‘n klein opname onder jong mense gedoen en was geskok om te ontdek dat baie, die kerk van vandag, beskou as bedrieërs, swendelaars, leuenaars, manipuleerders, egbrekers, ensovoorts. Ja, dit is die woorde wat baie gebruik het. Lewe ons die ‘wet’ of leef ons op aarde soos in die Hemel? Ons moet elkeen ‘n uitsonderlike lewensstyl kies wat die karakter en eienskappe van Jesus Christus weerspieël.

Wanneer ons ‘n Christelike “bumpersticker” op ons motor sit, juweliersware met ‘n kruis dra, of t-hempies met Skrifte dra, kan ons gerus wees dat mense kyk… hulle is op soek na egtheid. Ons moet die mense van God wees, nie net soos die mense van God lyk nie. Ons moet Jesus Christus weerspieël en die mense wees wat Jesus so graag wil hê ons moet wees.  Kom ons leef ‘n lewe wat die onderrig van die geloof mooi maak. Miskien moet ons studeer om te leer wat die einskappe van God is, en dan ‘n koers uitstippel om aanpassings in ons lewens te maak om die stralende goedheid van God te weerspieël. Kom ons besef dat dit dalk ‘n rukkie kan neem om eg en deursigtig te wees voordat ander begin glo in ons geloofsbewerings en ons ernstig opneem. Dit is nie genoeg om net rond te loop en Skrif aan te haal nie, die wêreld wil resultate sien wat ooreenstem met ons bewerings.

‘n Pragtige prentjie in die Skrif word gegee in Titus 2:1, waar ek glo dat een siening van die skrif ‘n beeld is van ‘n krans om die nek van elke gelowige in Christus Jesus. Daardie krans kan baie dinge verteenwoordig, maar vir hierdie bespreking, kom ons noem dit gesonde onderrig. Die idee van ‘n krans is ‘n oorwinning of kroon, maar dit is ook een van ‘n pragtige versiering om ‘n venster met ‘n uitsig. Elke gelowige is soos ‘n venster met ‘n uitsig, en die vrug van die Gees, heiligheid en Godsaligheid versier daardie venster, soos ‘n krans van genade. Daardie krans is vir elke gelowige, en daar is geen kantlynbankie vir die onbevoegde spelers nie. Elkeen is op die speelveld, self al dink jy nie jy is nie, luister na die Here… jy is. Hoe lyk jou krans?

Watter nut het dit om ‘n “Jesus is lief vir jou” stieker op jou motor te hê en dan padwoede te beoefen, of om onbeskof te wees teenoor mense met ‘n slegte houding, voor jou kollegas, of selfs waneer jy buite sig is van ander? Ons houding is aansteeklik. ‘n Paar goeie vra wat ons, onself kan vra, is : Wat vang ander mense van ons op?  Wie se lewe weerspieël ons wanneer ons daardie soort houding vertoon? Die bybel is ons finale maatstaf wat ons Gedrag, Karakter en Geselskap betref. 1 Timoteus 3:15 – “Ek skryf sodat jy mag weet hoe om jouself in die huis van God te gedra, wat die kerk van die lewende is, die pilaar en grond van die waarheid”. Hoe ons BINNE die huis is, is hoe ons BUITE die huis moet wees. Dit is ‘n ernstige misverstand van die Liefde van God wanneer ons “op ‘n Sondag na die Hemel toe gaan”, en dan die res van die week “soos die hel” leef. In jou gedagtes, hoe lyk dit as jy die  soort persoon sou wees wat heilig en soos God is in jou gedrag ? Sien jy jouself rondloop met ‘n gloeiende gloriekrans, wat lang gewade dra, heeltyd heilig opgetrek en altyd opkyk? Of dalk net ‘n gewone mens wat eenvoudig eerlik en eg is? Die Hebreeuse woord wat vir “heiligheid” gebruik word, impliseer sterk dat dit beteken om “afgesonder” te wees, of geskik vir ‘n spesifieke doel. Kom ons wees nie ontrou aan God se ontwerp nie.

Ek moedig ons almal aan om ons lewens te ondersoek en seker te maak dat die manier waarop ons lewe, sover ons kan, die Here te verteenwoordig.  Dat dit wat ons sê, geloofwaardig is. Wees eg.

Vertaling is deur Chané de Clercq

Dankie dat jy gelees het, ek is “Social Porter” van “Living in His Name Ministries”