Casting A Long Shadow

This year, i am 72. That isn’t long compared to some, but it’s pretty long to me considering when i was a child our neighbors said, “That boy will likely never live to see 7.” i was a dangerous child i suppose. These are the days i thought, in my youthful ignorance, that i’d never see, yet here i am, having cast a long shadow in my Christian community somehow, yet there it is. Surprisingly, i’m still alive — still praying, actually more than ever with greater intent, greater vision, living and walking in a personal, radiant, relational conversation with God all day, everyday. i never thought i’d see this level of intimacy with God, in fact, it was not even within me to imagine such beauty.

Think or more better, “think on these things”. Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Can you believe it?! Someone as vast and eternal as the King of the Universe has stooped down to know the very small dust in the window sill, who is me, and He actually wants to be friends. He even knows my name!

Regardless of me and my crazy life, God has caused me to “Cast a long shadow”. It may be a “long shadow” cast and only God can see, but it is there, never the less. To “cast a long shadow” can either be an idiom or a metaphor, and in my case it’s more idiom than anything else. For clarity’s sake, from the Oxford Dictionary of English Grammar, an idiom is a “common phrase or expression whose meaning is figurative, not literal, often rooted in culture.” For example, “stiff necked” in Exodus 32:9 means stubborn or rebellious. In Daniel 2:33-34, the idea of having “Feet of clay” points to a hidden weakness in someone who is strong yet they are destined to crumble. As it pertains to people, “Casting a long shadow” means having a significant, far-reaching, or lasting influence — a lifestyle which profoundly affects others. And it can be positive, as in someone’s achievements which may inspire generations, or negative, as in someone who acted scandalously or intimidated others, possibly for a couple generations.

To say a believer is someone who “casts a long shadow” is about legacy, meaning our walk in the Lord influences future people and events. As Christians our Fruit of the Spirit attributes, or character, can “cast a long shadow”. More than “what” we do, more than just being “on the way”, but wholly about “the way we go our way while in The Way”. Not merely the words we use but “how” we use our words which includes facial inflections, body posture and tone of voice. Do you get it? As example, my insistence on being honest, and i mean “down to the bone” type of honesty, influences those around me to also be honest. It may make others uncomfortable, but then we must ask “why are they uncomfortable?”

To quote a well-known missionary, C.T. Studd, “only what’s done for Christ will last” and he’s not talking about mere works, but more how we are, or, “the way we go our way while in The Way”. What he was saying reflects 1 Corinthians 3:12-15, “Now if anyone builds on this foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw each one’s work will become clear; for the Day will declare it, because it will be revealed by fire; and the fire will test each one’s work, of what sort it is.”

For years i worked hard as a musician. Oh boy, i religiously ran my scales, read my Bible, prayed, witnessed, religiously attended church, gave my tithe like a good boy, and ran the scales some more. Day in and day out. i played on the worship team at several churches, big meetings and small meetings, just every where i could. i was casting a long shadow alright, but i fear it wasn’t a good one. My “long shadow” was all about myself. i looked great but i was slowly dying inside. i didn’t pay any attention though to who i was but more how i appeared and how well i performed. i was always measuring, how good was good enough, how bad was too bad, did i say the right churchy sounding things, did the people like me, etc, ad naseum. Never once did it occur to me what kind of person i was. Jesus said I AM the Way, but i never thought about the way i went while in The Way.

Not until the last 20 years has God finally gotten my attention about who i was and how i was which was far more important than my ability to quote  scripture (so i would appear knowledgeable and pious), copying someone i heard preaching or praying so i could appear amazing, just amazing, and everyone would say, Wow!, a lot. But more importantly, did i value honesty, integrity, commitment and keeping my word? Did i put a higher value on knowing Jesus? Was my relationship with God one of belonging and connection, and Jesus as a forever-friend? All that loud living and full-throttle activity, without Christ as the focus and endpoint was/is/shall be a dead end.

So let me ask you, what kind of legacy will you leave? One day, i absolutely guarantee, you won’t be here any longer. You will no longer live under this sky, breathe this air, drink this water, or walk on this ground. i know it’s hard to imagine not being here anymore because it truly is the only place we’ve ever lived, but there WILL come a day when all you’ve known changes. Think! Do you “cast a long shadow”? What kind of shadow is it? Listen to me, i’m old and i really believe this is important — after you are gone, it is highly likely, within a couple generations, most all your stuff, pictures and all, will have gone to a thrift store or the trash. Within three generations almost no one will hardly remember your name, and the only one who remembers you and all that you have done is God. In light of that, more than anything i want my “long shadow”, my legacy, to be one of kindness not personal greatness. i want to be an advocator instead of a litigator, i want to impact the world around me with Godly patience and Godly boundaries, being generous like God is generous. Your actions create echoes upon the world around. If anyone remembers me i want them to think of how i loved my neighbor, remembered as the guy who listened and heard what other people said and possessed wisdom only God could have given, and that’s only a few. Who you are is more important than the great things you done. All that stuff you think is so great, when all is said and done, only what is done in Christ will stand.

If you want to make a difference, i believe the biggest difference you can make is to come into the likeness of the Son, Jesus. Be like Jesus, study Jesus, talk to Jesus and learn to have an everyday-walk-around conversation with God. Say, what kind of “long shadow” do you cast? Think about it.

Persistence

Calvin Coolidge said: “Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.”

When we use the term, “Press On”, as it’s used in Philippians 3:12, it means to be diligent and keep on keeping on, don’t stop, don’t deviate, focus and keep on straight ahead. Persistence has won battles; it has been an undeniable aid in everything from restoring marriages to scientific discoveries to overcoming drug and alcohol addiction. i used to have virtually no persistence, couldn’t finish hardly anything, and wondered why my life felt so no-where. An old man told me once, ” persistence is not mere stubbornness—it is faith refined in the furnace of delay”. Ugh! The “furnace of delay”, meaning a prolonged, intensely difficult season of waiting where we have been purposefully delayed in the fulfillment of a promise, dream, or breakthrough. We need persistence. i think it’s a learned thing, especially in this “instant gratification” world we presently live in, and in light of getting what we want, when we want, and how we want, the idea of a “furnace of delay” sounds just awful.

Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Persistence. The Greek word for “abide” occurs 127 times in the N.T., 35 times in it’s variations in the gospel of John alone. A major concept in abiding is persistence, continuing on, to tarry, and carry on. Considering how often the Lord uses the word in scripture, i figure He sees persistence as important for us to learn and practice.

“Cave bestiam”, Latin for “beware the beast”. One of satan’s favorite things to do is to try and get us to give up! However, God tells us to endure, persist, continue, and finish. Let me say those four again …. endure, persist, continue, and finish.

Persistence is one of God’s more subtle attributes, but an attribute of the Lord nonetheless and we should be aware if God was not persistent and did not share His persistence with us, we would yield to the world and capitulate easily in the wave of darkness and wrongness of character, which daily, if not hourly, washes over the world around us. Evil may be persistent, but God is more relentless in His pursuit of us than we have enough imagination to grasp.

Persistence. The Lord has pursued us with His enduring, everlasting love, He persists in His relentless reaching and seeking of those who are His to bring us home to Himself.

Consider for a moment if you are a persistent person and in what way.

i want to re-tell a story, a sad story, of someone i met at a nursing home. i’ll call her Gladys. When a friend and i first walked into her room to visit, she was laying on her bed, covered by a crisp, freshly creased sheet and thin faded blanket, staring at the wall. She was bone thin with very fine gray hair pulled tight across and behind her head, withered facial features, and she was pale, nearly translucent pale, her skin so thin you could see the veins just below the surface. She was so frail and still we thought she was dead were it not for the faint rise and fall of her chest, barely perceptible only if we stood silently and watched for a moment. Holding our breath with intense focus, we paused for a moment, hoping she would turn her head and speak, but when that didn’t happen, i ventured forward and asked how she was today. In a voice as thin as the rustle of dry leaves, while still staring at the wall she replied that she was just laying there waiting to die, tired of being in this world and was done with breathing. Finally, she slowly turned her head to look at us, and from very thin pale lips, told us she didn’t understand why she was still alive. With perplexity in her voice, she continued on saying her heart just kept beating and beating, and she had decided to just wait on it to quit. So, everyday, all day, every week she waited.

The next week we came back and there was Gladys, laying in her bed, almost exactly as she was the first time we met. i’m telling you, it seemed she had not moved an inch since the last time we say her. Hands folded across her chest on top of the sheet and blanket, skin thin as wet paper and her eyes were closed. i spoke softly to her a little above a whisper and asked if she was awake. With her eyes still shut, she said “Yes”. i told her it was a beautiful day, it was warm, and the flowers were blooming everywhere — then i asked her why her eyes were closed. She said she was tired of looking at the sky and the flowers and trees, tired of looking walls and people and just didn’t want to see any of that anymore. She insisted she was still waiting to die.

A month or so later, Gladys really did die. She died from a failure to persist — she didn’t want to be here anymore so badly, her body just simply stopped. It took her over two years to will herself to die, but it appeared she had accomplished her goal.

Sadly, we came to find out, two years prior to that, someone had prophesied to Gladys she only had a couple years left and God was going to take her home, and in light of that foolish and cruel prophesy to a healthy woman with children and grandchildren, Gladys decided that if that was the way it was going to be, then she’d just lay down and wait. She waited for over two years, failing to persist everyday a little more and a little more, until one day, she indeed left the land of the living.

Gladys was a good example about where we go when we cease our persistence of the Lord, life, love, goodness, hope, peace or any other good thing God has sowed into our lives. After meeting Gladys, i realized that it’s the truth, any of us, if we allow it, can become so sad, so resigned to ceasing to breath, we will, at some point, stop. God has another plan though.

After that dreadful story, i much prefer a “positive perspective of persistence”. That phrase has a nice rhythm doesn’t it? “Positive perspective of persistence”.

Persistence, what is it? Here’s part of what i’ve come up with: it is the ability to maintain action regardless of your feelings. In other words, we press on even when we feel like quitting, even when you think you’ve got good reason to quit. If God didn’t say quit what you’re doing, we will stand our post like the soldiers we are. Standing firm to the end is not a way to be saved but it IS the evidence that a person is committed to Jesus. Again, persistence is not a means to earn salvation; it is the by-product of a truly devoted life.

Joyce Meyer said, “Typically, i have to do the right thing with a right attitude for a long time before i start getting right results, that’s persistence.” i believe she was right. In my experience, though limited, i too have realized i often have to treat people right for a long time before they begin to treat me the same way. Not always, but by far and large, most of the time. Persist in treating people right is the key phrase there. That means even when they don’t treat us well, we repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. Consider it a kindness. Consider it a version of sharing your bread with the poor like in Isaiah 58:7. Just as God is kind to us and persists to love us, we need to be like Him. Just as natural seed finally takes root and the beginning of a plant breaks through the ground, we also will see breakthrough if we continue to do the right thing, regardless of what others do. Again, the sticky words are “continue to do the right thing”, persist.

On a side note, what is your idea of “breakthrough”? Be honest, down to the bone honest.

People frequently give up too easily. When their feelings quit on them, they quit too. There is what i call, “The spirit of Eeyore”, which sounds just like Eeyore on Winnie the Poo. Eeyore’s attitude says, “What does it matter? No one cares anyway.” OR “It’s ok. i’ll learn to live without it.” OR “It figures, might as well go home.” OR  “Nope, just got lonely being so popular. i figured being boring old me was better’n being something i ain’t. Hope you’re not too disappointed.”

When we give up, or cease to persist, despair and hopelessness is just a breath away. Let me encourage us all, when we are pressured to give up and turn our back on our friends or even Christ Himself  — don’t do it. Remember the benefits of standing firm, and continue, or persist to live for Christ. Matthew10:22, “And you will be hated by all for My name’s sake. But he who endures to the end will be saved.” Read Luke 18:1-8, James 1:12, and Romans 5:3-4 to name a few. God has a lot to say about perseverance and persisting.

Enduring means to persist, and it doesn’t mean to persist in order to merely be saved or merely get what we want, it means to persist in our pursuit to apprehend Jesus, our life, the Lover of Our Souls. He alone is the source and focus of our persistence! Altogether. Such persistence honors God’s sovereignty and transforms the one who waits. Persistence kills pride, or “I deserve an answer now”, deepens desperation for God Himself rather than simply getting from God what we want, and it forges character that can carry the eventual blessing without being crushed by it.

Just because we give up on something, does that mean we are a failure? No. It may seem to us we are a failure, but that’s failure as WE measure failure. God doesn’t see it that way. There’s a time to doggedly continue on just like there’s a time to let go and set your feet in another direction. Several years ago, two other men and i had a men’s meeting we called the “20/20 Men’s Group”. We persisted for a year, and at the end of that year we felt the Lord point us towards re-assessing our efforts. In our prayer and re-assessment, we perceived the Lord to encourage us to let our meetings go. Honestly, i didn’t want to because i loved the idea of the “20/20 Men’s Group”, but i also know it’s better to follow the Lord instead of keeping on with something He’s moved on from. So, we let it go, and it proved to be the right thing. Does that make us failures? Absolutely not. When to stop pursuing something is a good question, for truly, there are times to cease to pursue a direction which previously we knew to be the will of the Lord. If God changes direction, we must go with God, not be stubborn adherents to an old paradigm.

Greg Herrick wrote that “stubborn faith is not the same as persistent love.” Just because someone’s great-great grandparents did church like they did, if God has requested we change our way of doing things, for Heaven’s sake just change. When the great-great grandparents started the church, it was a great idea. But people have changed, culture has changed, ideals have changed and we mustn’t be so stubborn as to not change when God has moved on. If we’ll not change, what was once a great blessing could easily become a restraint so tight we can’t hardly breathe anymore. The gospel message is the same, of course, but how we go about doing it may lead to our being called to a higher place by the Lord. If we will move “with” the Lord we will do more than simply grow but will flourish. Persist in the pursuit of Jesus, not persist in a paradigm you like, methods you’re comfortable with, or some melancholy idea of “the way we used to do it.” In fact, i believe the phrase, “We ain’t never done it that way before” has stopped many ministries from continuing to prosper.

Here’s an interesting example of persistence with change: Ever heard of a company called “Traf-O-Data?” No? Well, at the time, me either. How about Microsoft? Oh, yea, we’ve all heard of that one. As it turns out both companies were started by Bill Gates and Paul Allen. Traf-O-Data was the first company they started in 1972. Gates and Allen ran it for several years before throwing in the towel. They gave up on their original. But, if they hadn’t given up on Traf-O-Data, then there might never have been “MicroSoft”, and i must say, they did much better with MicroSoft than their original idea.

So how do you know when to press on vs. when to let go and follow God’s lead to a new thing? Here’s some questions to help in the re-assement of things: Is your plan still correct and how can you tell? We’ve gotta’ be honest about that one. If it’s not correct, update the plan. Wait on God to confirm it, and yes, the Lord does, unwaveringly, confirm His word. Is your goal still correct? What’s your evidence? Be honest. If not, update or abandon your goal. There’s no honor in clinging to something when God has moved on. Here it is, hear me on this: Persistence is not stubbornness.

i am my own best example of stubbornness which i have often confused with persistence. Letting things go was hard for me. I had always believed we should never give up, that once i set my mind to something, i should hang on to the bitter end. i figured the only thing worse than dying was quitting. You know, the old “captain must go down with the ship and all. i often felt like a failure if i surrendered and didn’t grip my project even tighter in an effort to “make” it work, squeeze it until it works. It was hard for me to learn the difference between persistence and stubbornness. Again, if God changes direction, we must go with God, not be stubborn adherents to an old paradigm.

Romans 14:19 “Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which we may edify one another.”

Persist in apprehending that which makes peace and edifies the body of Christ. That’s very plain and straight forward.

Colossians1:23 says we should persist in our faith, persist in our being established and firm, not moved from the hope held out to us in the gospel.

1 Corinthians 14:1, “Pursue love, and desire spiritual gifts, but especially that you may prophesy.”

This obviously means to persist until we apprehend love, to persist in reaching towards the spiritual gifts God has for us, especially prophesy, and don’t let the word “prophesy” scare you off. i think so often we get stuck on a word and miss the content. This is not buying into crazy doctrine but i’m saying, simply, don’t get stuck on a word like “prophesy” just because it’s not in the scope of your vision. Persist to understand what God means, and just because some individuals have done it poorly doesn’t mean it is not a viable gift from the Lord.

Persist to walk in the truth, not just the facts, but the truth, truth and fact are different you know. Remember also there is a balance in persistence. 1 John 5:18 “We know that anyone born of God does not continue to sin”. Friends, it isn’t necessarily the one cookie that makes us over weight, but the lifestyle of cookies we persist in. It isn’t automatically the one-sy, two-sy of things we do wrong which defile us, it is the lifestyle of wrongness which we persist in. It is not so much the lie here and there which get us in trouble but the theme of lying that causes us such grief. The key word for today in 1 John 5:18 is “continue” or “persist”.  Like in 1 John 3:6, it says “No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him.” That scripture isn’t speaking of a single act, but a lifestyle. It is our conduct and habits which reveal if we really know Jesus or not. Remember: There is balance in our persistence and persistence is not stubbornness, and ceasing to persist on something does not mean anyone is a failure. Think! How does God see the situation? Persist and find out. If you ask Him i guarantee He will answer, by and by. Oh, yes He will.

i read somewhere that the value of persistence comes not from stubbornly clinging to the past. It comes from a vision of the future that is so compelling you would give anything to make it real. This life is real, God is real and alive. i really believe persistence of action comes from persistence of vision. Let me encourage us all to pursue God for our vision and dreams. It ain’t over yet, and i’ve not heard the bell ring, so let’s put our shoulder to the wheel and persist in our pursuit of Jesus. Think about it.

Persistence allows you to keep taking action even when you don’t feel motivated to do so. According to early Christian writers, there are two virtues of courage: Patience & Persistence. Patience is enduring difficulties or danger without being inordinately cast down. Persistence is continuance in spite of difficulties or danger. If there exists in us true courage, therein is faith & hope also, and if there is hope and faith, patience and persistence are close at hand. Persist in prayer, persist and endure through trials, and persist in faith and obedience. Through Christ we shall be persistent, enduring, and steadfast.

In Luke 5:17-20 Jesus was teaching in a house and some guys carried a paralyzed man up onto the roof. There they took apart the roof, and lowered the paralyzed man into the room so Jesus could heal him. Those guys were VERY daring, not to mention it was probably very messy considering there was dirt and roof stuff falling onto the people below. i’d bet anything people complained and maybe even yelled at them to stop, but yet they persisted because they had hope something would change, they had a vision of the future for their friend. Let us be willing to persist on behalf of our neighbors in the same way.

i’m Social Porter and this has been brought to you by Living In His Name Ministries, Area 22 Guitars, Cannie Ledbetter at Oakdale Cemetery, Skyland Battery and Ignition, Mr. Jack Johnson at Johnson’s Gulf Service, Elmo and Mary Hogan, and Trinity Bakers where there’s always something good in the oven.

Be persistent this week, press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called us heavenward in Christ Jesus. Persist! Persist! Persist! Be at peace and let Jesus be your rest and comfort. Until we meet again, Amen

032 Luister

Ek het al meer as net ’n paar sessies bygewoon waar iemand probeer het om ’n geskil met iemand anders op te los. Een ding wat ek telkens opgemerk het, is hoe opvallend min daar eintlik geluister word.

Ons is dikwels so vasgevang in onsself – wat ons wil sê of doen – dat ons nie regtig hoor wat die ander persoon sê nie. Dis eintlik ’n aangename verrassing om iemand te ontmoet wat nie net luister nie, maar ook kan opsom wat jy gesê het.

Weet jy, dis moeilik om jou naaste te hoor, as jy heeldag aan die praat is.

Matteus 11:15: “Wie ore het om te hoor, laat hom hoor.”

Deur die Bybel roep God ons meer as 61 keer op om te luister – om werklik teenwoordig te wees en te hoor. Ek sou sê die Here wil hê ons moet die waarde van luister verstaan.

Ek glo dat ’n deel van die algemene wêreldwye angsvlak – wat ek dink ongelooflik hoog is – te wyte is aan die feit dat die meeste mense nie voel asof hulle gehoor word nie. Ons voel klein, onsigbaar, afgeskryf en onbelangrik… asof ons nie saak maak nie, vasgevang in ’n algemene gevoel van verwerping. Ek glo regtig dat baie van ons angs verlig kan word as ons net meer moeite doen om regtig te leer luister. Maar wanneer ons midde-in konflik is, is ons houding: “Wie wil nou na hulle luister – verál as HÚLLE so verkeerd is?”, alles gesê met hoofletters, uitroeptekens en net ’n bietjie té hard en dramaties.

Miskien sal dit help as ons ’n beter begrip het van wat dit regtig beteken om te luister. Dit beteken immers om jou “oor te verbreed, intelligent te hoor, jou ore spits en aandag te gee.” Sien jy dit? Dit gaan oor meer as net om woorde waar te neem – dit vra ’n doelbewuste poging om die ander persoon te verstaan en te hoor wat hulle werklik bedoel. Moenie net na woorde luister nie – luister vir die hart daaragter.

Met dit in gedagte, het ek gedink om vier basiese punte te deel oor hoe en waar ’n mens kan begin om ’n goeie luisteraar te word.

1 – Luister op ’n aktiewe manier.

Gee aandag. Wees werklik teenwoordig in die oomblik. Niemand wil met ’n lyk gesels nie – so leer om hierdie drie dinge te doen: parafraseer, verduidelik, en gee terugvoer. Dis regtig belangrik, so hier is dit weer: parafraseer, verduidelik, en gee terugvoer. Parafrasering help jou om seker te maak jy verstaan reg. Verduideliking beteken om vrae te vra totdat jy ten volle verstaan wat die ander persoon bedoel. Terugvoer is om jou eie gedagtes en gevoelens te deel op ’n nie-veroordelende manier. En, kyk mooi hier, ou maat — jy kan nie aan die einde sê: “jy’s ’n idioot,” en steeds hoop vir ’n positiewe uitkoms nie. Ja, ek weet, dalk is dit waar… maar dit hoef eenvoudig net nie gesê te word nie — nie as jy regtig die konflik wil oplos nie.

2 – Luister met empatie.

Sit jouself in die ander persoon se skoene… Verstaan jou naaste se probleem sonder om deel te raak van hul konflik. Het jy dit gehoor? Sonder om in hul konflik ingetrek te word. Jy mag dalk nie hou van wat gesê word nie, maar dikwels – as jy regtig luister – sal jy agterkom dat, as jy in hul situasie was, jy moontlik dieselfde sou gevoel het.

Romeine 12:15 sê: “Wees bly saam met die wat bly is; huil saam met die wat huil.”

Onthou, niemand het gesê ons moet saamstem nie. Maar dink hieraan: God luister na ons in al ons deurmekaar emosies en woorde – ja, Hy luister… maar dit beteken nie Hy stem altyd saam nie.

3 – Luister met ’n oop hart en gemoed.

Wanneer jy net hoor wat jy wíl hoor (selektief luister), of alles deur ’n verdedigende of gekleurde bril hoor, dan luister jy nie regtig met ‘n oop gemoed nie. Probeer eerder luister soos ’n ontdekkingsreisiger of antropoloog wat iemand van ’n ander wêreld ontmoet – iemand met ander gewoontes, oortuigings en manier van dink. Jou doel is nie om saam te stem nie, maar om te verstaan. Onthou, jy hoef nie hul siening te aanvaar of hul standpunt te deel nie – maar jy kan met respek luister na hul dilemma, sonder om self daarin ingetrek te word.

4 – Luister met bewustheid.

Luister of wat hulle sê, ooreenstem met die feite? Met ander woorde, as luisteraars moet ons ons huiswerk doen, sodat ons ten minste ’n idee het van wat die feite is. Maar dink ook hieraan: net omdat jy die feite het, beteken dit nie noodwendig jy het die volle waarheid nie. Feite vertel nie altyd die hele storie nie. As jy reeds aktief, met empatie en met ’n oop gemoed geluister het, en jy verstaan nog steeds nie hul standpunt nie – moenie aanval nie. Gaan na die probleem toe, nie na die persoon toe nie! Om iemand te spot, te verneder of opsetlik te terg, help nie om die konflik op te los nie. Trouens, dit verstewig die konflik net verder. Daardie optrede wen niks – dit laat jou net lyk of jy wil wen, maak nie saak wat reg is nie. Haal asem. Ontspan. Moenie reageer uit frustrasie nie. Gee eerder tyd, wag ’n bietjie en versamel meer inligting. Die doel is om betrokke en oop te bly in die gesprek — nie om die ander persoon te verneder of stil te maak nie. In plaas daarvan om hul woorde met woede of verwerping te beantwoord, kan jy iets sê soos: “Kan jy dalk ’n bietjie meer verduidelik?”, of “Het jy ’n spesifieke voorbeeld?”, of selfs net: “Dankie dat jy jou perspektief met my gedeel het — ek sal daaroor nadink.” Jy kan ook sê: “Dis interessant; ek het dit nog nie so gesien nie.”

God luister na ons — nie net na ons woorde nie, maar na ons harte. Laat ons ook leer om so te luister. Die kuns van luister is ’n Christus-agtige vaardigheid wat ons met nederigheid en opregtheid moet aanleer. Baie mense hoor, maar min luister regtig — en dít is iets wat kan verander.

Vertaal deur Chané de Clercq

Baie dankie dat jy saam gelees het. Ek is Social Porter van Living in His Name Ministries.

031 Ներքին ազատություն

«17 Նրանց սո՛ւրբ արա Քո ճշմարտությամբ. Քո խոսքը ճշմարտություն է։ 18 Ինչպես Դու Ինձ ուղարկեցիր աշխարհ, Ես էլ նրանց ուղարկեցի աշխարհ։ 19 Եվ Ես նրանց համար Իմ անձը սուրբ եմ անում, որ նրանք էլ ճշմարտությամբ սրբված լինեն» (Հովհաննես 17.17-19)։

Քանի դեռ հավատացյալներն ապրում են աշխարհում, նրանք ինչ որ ձևով այս աշխարհի հոսանքին հակառակ են ընթանալու։ Եվ դա անխուսափելի է։ Մենք ունենալու ենք ճնշումների, դժվարությունների, խնդիրների, մեղք գործելու հնարավորությունների, գայթակղությունների և պայքարի փորձառություն։ Բայց այս բոլոր բաներում, քանի որ Հիսուս հաղթեց այս աշխարհին և Նա հավատքով ապրում է մեր մեջ, մենք նույնպես հաղթողներ ենք, ինչպես որ Նա է հաղթող։ Եթե Հիսուս չհաղթեր աշխարհին, մենք էլ չէինք հաղթի աշխարհին։ Քանի որ Նա հաղթեց, մենք նույնպես կարող ենք հաղթել և դա միշտ այդպես է։ Քանի որ Հիսուս դա արեց, մենք էլ դա անում ենք և կարող ենք։ Քանի որ Հիսուս ծնկի իջավ (Ղուկաս 22.41), մենք էլ կարող ենք ծնկի իջնել արդարությամբ։

Հովհաննես 14.18-ում Հիսուս ասաց. «Ձեզ որբ չե՛մ թողնի. կգամ ձեզ մոտ»։ Սա նշանակում է, որ Աստված թույլ չի տա, որ սա պատահի մեզ հետ, Նա թույլ չի տա, որ մենք որբ մնանք։ Եվ եթե Աստված ասել է, որ Նա ինչ-որ բան թույլ չի տա, մենք պետք է վստահենք Նրան, քանի որ Նա լուրջ է վերաբերվում Իր ասածին։ Աստված չի կատակում։ Հիսուս ուղիղ խոսող էր և անորոշություն չկար Նրա մեջ, Նրա խոսելակերպի և գործելակերպի մեջ։ Եվ սա նաև լավ սեփական «սահմաններն» ունենալու օրինակ է։ Քանի որ Հիսուսն ուներ իր իս սեփական ու լավ «սահմանները», մենք էլ կարող ենք ունենալ լավ «սահմաններ»։

Քանի որ Հիսուս մերժեց աշխարհն իր բոլոր գրավչություններով, բամբասանքներով, տրտունջներով, դատաստաններով, դատապարտումներով և կրքերով, մենք նույնպես կարող ենք մերժել աշխարհի մուտքը մեր կյանքի մեջ։ Հիսուսը մեզ համար առաջնահերթություն սահմանեց՝ մինչև վերջ, անխափան կերպով։ Քանի որ Հիսուս սիրեց մեզ, մենք էլ ունակ ենք սիրել Նրան։ Քանի որ Հիսուս ազատ էր, մենք նույնպես կարող ենք ազատ լինել։ Ոչ ոք չպե՛տք է մնա վատ բնավորության և մահվան ստրուկը։

Ահա շատ լավ քննարկման թեմա. կարծում եք Աստված թո՞ւյլ կտա Երկինք մտնել նրանց, ովքեր չեն սիրում Իրեն: Արդյո՞ք իրականում մենք սիրում ենք Հիսուսին։ Եվ իսկապես ցանկանո՞ւմ ենք ունենալ Նրան մեր կյանքում. Նրան, ով մահացավ և հարություն առավ մեզ համար: Ի՞նչ է ասում մեր խիղճը: Միայն խնդրում եմ, որ պատասխանը լինի մաքուր ճշմարտությունը:

Հաճախ հավատացյալները շոկ են ապրում, երբ իմանում են, որ ինչ որ նշանավոր քրիստոնյա կամ հայտնի հոգևոր ծառայող ընկել է որևէ մեղքի մեջ։ Նույնիսկ այն մարդիկ, ովքեր «գիտեն» Ճշմարտությունը, կարող են անպարկեշտ վիճակներում հայտնվել, եթե թույլ չեն տվել, որ Աստծու սերն արմատ գցի իրենց կյանքում և նման մարդիկ արդեն կորցրել են Հիսուսի հանդեպ իրենց «ախորժակը»։ Եվ եթե մենք զգուշություն չանենք մեր անձերին, կարող ենք խեղաթյուրել ճշմարտությունը և թույլ չտալ, որ Աստծու էությունն ու ճշմարտությունը թափանցեն մեր էության խորքերըը։ Մենք երբեմն կարող ենք ունենալ Խոսքի «գլխում եղող» գիտելիքը և ոչ թե՝ «սրտում եղող» գիտելիքը։

Սրբացումն այն է, երբ Աստծու մաքրագործող ճշմարտության «բոցավառ» իրականությունը թույլ ենք տալիս մտնի մեր կյանքի յուրաքանչյուր «սենյակ և բաժին»։ Այլ կերպ ասած, մենք չենք ունենում որևէ «գաղտնի սենյակ», որը փակել ենք Տիրոջ առաջ։ Եվ ի վերջո, չպետք է մտածենք, որ Տերը չի տեսնում, քանի որ Աստծու աչքերն ամեն ինչ տեսնում են։ Աստծու աչքերից ոչինչ չի վրիպոմ։ Մենք պիտի գիտակցենք, որ Արքան, որին մենք ծառայում ենք մասամբ կույր չէ կամ այնպիսի մեկը, ով աչքերի խնդիր ունի և աղոտ է տեսնում։ Մեր Աստված ամեն ինչ տեսնում է, այնպես որ բացե՛ք ձեր «դռները», ասե՛ք Նրան, թե իրականում ինչ կա ձեր մտքում։ Տվե՛ք Տեր Հիսուսին դժվար հարցերը և վստա՛հ եղեք, որ Նրան դուր է գալիս, երբ մենք անկեղծ ու բաց ենք Իր առաջ։ Բայց երբ լռում ենք՝ կասկածների մեջ ու չենք բացվում Տիրոջ առաջ, երբեք էլ պատասխան չենք ստանում։ Երբեմն պետք է արտահայտվել, խոսել Տիրոջ հետ բարձրաձայն… քանզի մեր ականջները երբեմն պետք է լսեն, թե ինչ են ասում մեր բերանները, այնպես որ խոսեք… Աստծու ականջները բաց են։ Քանի որ Հիսուս հաղթեց և հաղթողն է, մենք նույնպես կարող ենք հաղթողներ լինել։ Իրականում, ըստ Աստծու Խոսքի, մենք ավելին ենք, քան հաղթողներ։ Մենք պարզապես պետք է Տիրոջ տված հաղթանակը սկսենք կիրառել։

Հաճախ ներքին ազատությունն ընդամենը Աստծու հետ սրտանց, բայց, անկեղծ զրույցն է։ Պարզապես զրուցի՛ր Հիսուսի հետ, պատմի՛ր Նրան քո բոլոր դժվարությունների մասին։ Վստահ եղի՛ր, որ Նա կլսի նույնիսկ ներսիցդ եկող թույլ ճիչը և ճիշտ ժամանակին անպայման կպատասխանի։

Երբ սկսես ուղղակի զրուցել Տիրոջ հետ, դու կզգաս, թե ինչպես է «պտտվում աղոթքի անիվն» ու կիմանաս, որ մի փոքր «կրակ է վառվում» արդեն։

Հիշի՛ր, որ նույնիսկ փոքրիկ զրույցը Տեր Հիսուսի հետ կլուծի ցանկացած խնդիրը։

(Թարգմանությունը՝ Արթուր Իսպիրյանի / Translation by Artur Ispiryan. 27.10.2025)

098 Die Teorie van Verplaasde Verantwoordelikheid

Ons sê dikwels die weer is sleg, of dat ’n boom maar ’n swak verskoning vir ’n boom is. Of ons sê: as “hulle” dit nie gedoen het nie, sou “ek” dit nie hoef te doen nie. Maar wat ons kies en hoe ons kies, bly ons eie verantwoordelikheid. Die gewig van ons besluite rus op niemand anders as onsself nie. My keuses is myne alleen — dit behoort aan my om dit te aanvaar of op te los. Ek vind dit vreemd hoe selde ek besef dat daar eintlik niks fout is met die weer nie. Die weer is net… die weer. Tog sê ek dikwels: “Die weer is vandag sleg.” Maar is dit regtig dat die weer sleg is, of hou ek eenvoudig net nie daarvan nie?

Op ’n verskriklik warm dag in Julie was ek besig om nuwe heinings op te sit. O my genade, dit was warm, en ek was deurweek van sweet. Ek het besluit om onder ’n nabygeleë boom in die skaduwee te gaan sit om ’n bietjie te rus en droog te word. Toe ek gaan sit, het ek binne ’n paar oomblikke besef dat ek net so warm en nat was soos toe ek in die son gestaan en heiningspale in die grond inslaan het. Ek het opgekyk en gesien dat die boom waaronder ek sit, eintlik maar ’n skraal ding was met min takke en blare. Onmiddellik het die woorde uit my mond gekom: “Jy is ’n swak verskoning vir ’n boom — hoekom laat ek jou selfs hier groei?” Presies toe het die Here my hart aangeraak en vir my ’n vraag gestel: “Is die boom swak, of hou jy net nie van die tipe skaduwee wat die boom maak nie? Is die boom te blameer, of het jy bloot swak gekies?”

’n Week later het ’n vriend van my kom kuier. Toe hy by die huis instap, sê hy: “Die weer is regtig sleg daar buite.” Met ’n glimlag het ek toe vir hom dieselfde vraag gevra wat God aan my gestel het: “Is die weer werklik sleg, of hou jy net nie daarvan nie?” Ek het geweet hy is ’n man wat aan die waarheid toegewyd is. Al was dit ’n bepalende oomblik, het hy nie probeer om die verantwoordelikheid vir sy woorde te verskuif of my te beskuldig dat ek te veel vrae vra nie. In plaas daarvan het hy begin nadink oor die grondslag van waaruit hy besluite neem. Hy het ongemaklik in sy stoel rondgeskuif — eers na links, toe na regs — en my ’n skewe kyk gegee. Toe sê hy: “Ag, jy’s reg. Ek het die weer blameer vir my voorkeure.” In plaas daarvan om my te beskuldig dat ek te analities is, het hy, soos ’n wyse man, die vraag op homself en sy denke toegepas.

Kom ons dink ’n bietjie daaroor; hoe dikwels iemand vir ons ’n deurdringende vraag vra — en in plaas daarvan om toe te laat dat die vraag in ons harte werk doen, verskuif ons die verantwoordelikheid daarvan om God se wysheid toe te pas. In plaas daarvan om te vra hoe ons beter kan wees, fokus ons daarop hoe hulle, ja, “hulle”, op een of ander manier op ons ingedring het. Dan beskuldig ons hulle daarvan dat hulle ondersoekend of nuuskierig is. Ek vind dit nogal merkwaardig hoeveel gelowiges vasval in die idee van “skeppende evolusie” — deur huiwerig te wees om hul eie motiewe te ondersoek, eerder as om te erken dat hul ware dryfkrag êrens anders lê. Hebreërs 13:14 sê: “Want ons het hier geen blywende stad nie, maar ons soek die toekomstige stad.” Hierdie wêreld is nie ons tuiste nie — en tog is dit verbasend hoeveel gelowiges hul lewens versier asof dit hul finale bestemming is. Hulle versier dit asof dit reeds “huis saam met Jesus” is. Hulle probeer ons oortuig dat die aarde in die hemel verander kan word. Maar dit lyk nie eens na die eenvoudigste idee van die hemel nie, en ons voel eerder soos vreemdelinge op aarde.“Ek het nie ’n probleem nie — jy vra net te veel vrae.” Sien jy hoe die verantwoordelikheid om te hanteer wat werklik in ons aangaan, verskuif word deur te sê: “Jy vra net te veel vrae”?

Ons sê: “Hierdie skoene lyk verskriklik.” Maar is die skoene werklik sleg, of is die waarheid eerder dat ek dit verwaarloos het en nie mooi daarna omgesien het nie? Ons sê: “Die toets was te moeilik.” Was die toets regtig te moeilik, of is die waarheid dat ons nie genoeg geleer het nie — of dalk net nie die werk goed genoeg verstaan het nie? Ons sê: “As God net wou…” — dit of dat. Is dit werklik dat God nie opgetree het nie, of is die waarheid eerder dat ons nagelaat het om saam met Hom te werk en Hom te vertrou dat Hy op die regte tyd met die regte antwoord sal reageer? Ons sê: “As die mense in my gemeente nie so behoeftig was nie, sou ek nie te besig wees om tyd saam met my familie te spandeer nie.” Ek het dit werklik gehoor. Maar is dit waar dat hul behoefte die oorsaak is van my besige lewe, of is die waarheid nie dalk eerder dat dit nie die skuld van behoeftige mense is dat ek nie genoeg tyd saam met my vrou en kinders deurbring nie — maar dat ek eenvoudig kies om iets anders te doen?

Ons keuses is ons eie verantwoordelikheid. Dit is nie my ma se skuld dat ek nie Universiteit toe is nie — ek was die een wat besluit het om iets anders te doen. Ons moet ophou om verantwoordelikheid te verskuif na dinge of ander mense om te probeer verduidelik hoekom ons nie kan, nie wil, of nie gedoen het nie. Onthou: as jy te besig is, was jy die een wat “ja” gesê het. Niemand het jou te besig gemaak nie — net jy self.

Jesaja 49:20: “Die kinders van jou verlies sal nog in jou ore sê: ‘Die plek is te nou vir my; maak vir my plek sodat ek kan woon.’”

Vriende, laat ons verantwoordelik wees en die Here vra vir wysheid. Ons het almal Sy wysheid dringend nodig. Wat dink julle?

Vertaal deur Chané de Clercq.

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John 5, The Politics of Bethesda: Jesus asked the man, “Do you want to be well?” The man said, “Sure!” Jesus said, “Take up your bed and walk.” So the guy did, and he had no idea God had just visited him. The Pharisee’s, who seemed to be screening things, tell the guy, “Gahh! Don’t you know it is WRONG to work (carry you bed) on the Sabbath!??!? What’s a matter with you?!!?” The guy sez, “Well, the man who made me well said to pickup my bed, so i did.” Pharisee’s, with condescending exasperation, “ARGH! Do you do everything you’re told?!? Who is this “person” who said pick up your bed!??” The guy sez, “I don’t know.” Later, the guy who was healed was in the temple (he evidently was not ignorant of who God was, he just didn’t actually know Jesus), there he meets Jesus, Jesus gives him some advice, then the guy goes and tells the Pharisee’s (“Look!, Look!, right over there! That’s the guy!”). Then Jesus makes an incredible statement about working on the Sabbath, He sez, vs17, “My father is working today, so i’m working today.” Very upsetting! Jesus was a lot of things, but “nice” wasn’t one of them.

“Nice” is VERY subjective you know. Ummm … ok, wait. The law says it is illegal to work on the Sabbath, but the Father works on the Sabbath, Jesus works on the Sabbath. Wait a minute! So if God didn’t make that law, then who did? The lawyers and Pharisees were more concerned with obeying the rules, and who cares if anyone got healed after 38 years of being incapacitated, just keep the rules, by all means. Following God’s lead is far more important than being a good rule keeper, checking off all the performance accomplishments. Prayed today, Check!, read my Bible today, Check!, Went to church today, Check!, Witnessed to someone, Check!, Spent an hour with my spouse (how gracious of me), Check! Was nice to people at work (feeling piously benevolent about that), Check! Didn’t work on the Sabbath (oh man, i’m doing the stuff now!), Check! i should be ok ’cause my list is checked off right? But why is my job, my marriage, my relationship with my folks/kids, why does all that just seem kind of, i don’t know, tilted?? Off balance, unfulfilling.

Why do i always spiritually feel like my arm is out of joint and i’m out of breath? Why do i feel like i’ve been holding my breath all day? i’m doing the formula, and it’s just not cutting it anymore! Oh bother, What will we do, what will we do?? i’m fairly certain that in the life of every believer, at some point, doing the formula (pray/read/fellowship/tithe) is not enough, and there’s nothing wrong with doing those four points, of course not, it’s just that being good little law keepers isn’t enough. Toeing the line of a moral code will eventually inspire the best of us to be double-minded simply because the pressure to constantly perform is more weight than we can bear. God wants a relationship not just rule keepers, he doesn’t want to do it FOR us, He wants to do it WITH us. Do you believe that y-o-u-r well being is directly tied to y-o-u-r ability to be obedient?? Be honest!

That means when you get life wrong you don’t deserve to be well or do well, and when you get it right enough, ahh,now you are worthy of blessing and well being.

Ships captains of 150 years ago used to have a phrase that everyone recognized as a command to come about to the given nautical heading. They would say, “Come to”, meaning to change your old heading to the new. Maybe you don’t exactly know who is gently knocking on the door of your heart. Maybe you think you do and it terrifies you. Maybe you think if you could get your life together better things would go more smoothly, always reaching to be a little more obedient in hopes of a better result. Maybe some of that is generally true in the sense of just paying attention to the details, like washing your clothes, doing the dishes, or showing up for work. But thinking we can be obedient enough that God will give us what we want is another story. We must cease our mindset of giving to get, always needing a little bit more in order for you to be OK.

Being a rule keeper may make us acceptable to our peers, but what if we did the right thing simply because it was the right thing, not because the rules said we should do the right thing? You know, people tend to mandate acting correctly and also feel the need to add a penalty at the end, like a threat to all rule breakers everywhere.

The Pharisee’s of John 5 demanded the minions keep the rules and do what they were told. They made up rules the minions had to keep that they, themselves, had special excuses as to why they didn’t have to keep the same rules. On one hand they demanded the man be obedient to their rules, but on the other hand when the man obeyed God instead of keeping the rules, they wanted to know if he always did what he was told. Oh, so, it’s like the attitude is: i’m glad you do what you’re told as long as i’m the one doing the telling, otherwise you’re just disobedient? Church leaders set a standard tithe as 10%, but God moved that forward and said something bigger, He said, “Follow me”, which is a present, active, imperative verb. It’s imperative, meaning “do it!” It doesn’t mean keep the rules, nor did He add a penalty afterwards saying, “and if you don’t, i’ll make you pay.” That’s not what God said. Acts5:29, “But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.” and Acts4:19, “But Peter and John answered them, “Whether it is right in the sight of God to listen to you rather than to God, you decide.” i didn’t say don’t respect authority, but i am saying our ultimate responsibility is to God, first, with a continuous upward pointing to the sovereignty of God as a platform for where we plant our feet, on the entire word of God, not just the parts which support our agenda.

What do you think?

Not Nowhere Man

Friend, “you are not nowhere, nor are you living in nowhere land with nowhere plans.”

i knew a man who shared with me some of his early life story. As he talked and i listened, i began to realize what a phenomenal story i was hearing, and how miraculous it was that he’d managed, with God’s help, to overcome such staggering odds to be where he was. He wasn’t rich, but he was prosperous. He wasn’t a hero, but he was strong and courageous everyday. He didn’t have a title, but he was a leader. He could probably buy most anything he might want, but the beauty was he didn’t really want anything. He’d had a lot of things and gotten rid of a lot of things and just didn’t want things anymore. What he wanted was Jesus and it showed in all he did and in every word he spoke.

His son had recently found one of his dad’s old 10th grade report cards, and sent him a photo of it on his phone. When the fellow saw the picture, it was a shameful thing with nothing but d minuses, f’s, zeros’, and some teachers notes indicating the young man of many years ago, was smart, but just seemed indifferent to doing any better. In the moment he texted back to his son saying at that time of his life, his own father had told him he was born a zero, and he’d probably die a zero, and the boy heard it enough that he finally decided if his father believed that about him, he might as well just go on and be a zero. So… he did. As a young man he joined the Navy to escape a bleak life, only to enter into an even more bleak life. He was in good shape, and had learned to fight pretty well, he said he actually enjoyed being a back alley pugalist. He put in to join the Navy Seals. Surprisingly, he got the assignment to go to training, but the end of his tour had come up and the Government wanted 6 more years out of him. Also, at the end of his tour in the Navy, he met Jesus and his life changed by degrees every day.  The Lord told him not to sign up but to get out, which he did. Later in life he learned the wisdom of God’s counsel when he realized there were four things he didn’t have which would have caused him to fail as a Navy SEAL. He was too big, his knees would never have taken the challenge, he didn’t know how to be a team player, and more than anything, he didn’t possess the heart of a champion.

Then he said something amazing which woke up a realization about myself. He said, for so much of his early life, in the back of his head, there was always a song playing, an old Beatles tune with the words turned personal, “i’m a real nowhere man, living in my nowhere land, making all my nowhere plans for no one.” Over and over until he believed it and adjusted his life to live like it. Thankfully, his story didn’t end there, leaving the listener in such a place of despair.

As i said, at the end of his tour of duty, he met Jesus and life began to change. The Lord told him different things, better things, truer things, life giving things. God said he was proud of him, and told him over and over and over he was smart, and he was strong. Seemingly every day, God reversed the words of the “nowhere man” song, saying, “You’re a real somewhere man, living in My somewhere land, making all your somewhere plans for everyone.” Over and over until he began to believe it and live like it. The turn around wasn’t over night, and in fact, it was a long… slow… turn because the Lord solved many things on the way back home. Just like many things were solved on the way home for the prodigal son, God solves many things in us on our road back to the Father.

So what am i getting at? i’m here to tell you, remind you as often as necessary, you, yes you… were not, are not, and never will be a nowhere man, living in your nowhere land. God has always had a plan for you. The enemy of our souls may whisper lies to us, but God, yes, But God says you are NOT a nothing, NOT born a nothing and WON’T die a nothing. You have so much value in you God was willing to die for you and give you life beyond your wildest dreams. But i must add though, here’s the catch, you’ve got to live it, not just call it out by faith, but put it into action and live it. Do it! Let your mother’s negative words which are stuck in your head go, tell the influencers in your ears that they are FIRED and are not allowed to have any impact on your life.

Friend, quit giving your ears to all the badness that’s been spoken to you. Buy into, set your sights on, purchase with all you have, all the things God says. You are NOT a nowhere man, and from before you were born, you were NOT destined to live in nowhere land. If you are in Christ, you are always, always, always somewhere and are a someone. To call yourself a nothing and a zero is to call God nothing, and that’s another lie we’ve swallowed. Your calling is to Christ. You can do right business. You are empowered to get those invoices out, on time, to the right person. You are smart enough to know how money flows through your business. You are big enough to learn to close your mouth and open your mouth when necessary, acting like a mature adult with good filters and solid boundaries. Yes that’s you. You are because God says you are. i don’t know who you are, but i’m here to tell you, as a person who has heard the “nowhere man” song in my own head, all my life, it’s a lie. Repeat this with me, “i am not nowhere and i won’t buy into the nowhere man song in my head any longer.” Say it again, “i am not nowhere and i won’t buy into the nowhere man song in my head any longer.”

What do you think?